We've talked about how our dogs are primarily responding to the emotional energy in the world around them.  We've also addressed how a dog needs to be relaxed in order to deal with this energy in a healthy manner (by letting it flow through them), since a physically tense dog will experience excess energy as a building tension that ultimately must be released (typically in some sort of "dysfunctional" behavior).  This article is going to give you some quick tips on helping your dog relax.

The two most important things for you are:
1.  Develop your ability to sense what's going on with your dog. 

In any given situation, is your dog getting more relaxed, or more tense?  Do you see muscles trembling?  Hair standing on end?  Tail quivering?  Body wiggling out of control? Spinning around in circles, or manic jumping?  Anxious panting?  Primarily visual interaction with the world (staring intently)?  Shallow breathing?  Seeming to be head-oriented, instead of body-oriented?  These are all signs of tension, to varying degrees of escalation.  Your goal should be to spot warning signs early and nip them in the bud by taking steps to calm the situation. As soon as the tension in your dog has escalated along with the flow of stimulation, you can't expect your dog to listen to you, and it becomes your job to bring them back down to earth before worrying about whether or not they're doing what you ask.

A relaxed dog might have an intensity about them, but it will be a calm, focused intensity, not a building-to-a-flipout kind of intensity.  Muscles will be supple, and the dog will be more interested in your contact with their body.  A relaxed dog tends to sniff the environment (instead of relying primarily on sight), and will be able to hear you despite whatever else is going on in the world around them.  Breathing will be regular, and moments of stillness will be balanced with moments of fluid motion.

2.  Develop a state of calm, centered relaxation within yourself.

Our dogs are picking up the emotional energy of the world around them, so who do you think is the major source of that energy?  That's right, it's you!  Before you pick apart how your dog is reacting in a given situation, examine your own responses.  Are you getting tense in a particular part of your body?  Are you getting anxious, trying to figure out what to do?  Is your breathing rapid and/or shallow?  Does your voice get all quick and animated, high pitched?  Is the intensity of your interaction building, like by tightening up on the leash, or through verbal escalation?  Just like you can't expect your dog to respond correctly when they are in their own fight-or-flight mode, you also can't expect to be capable of asking for the "right" things until you've managed to chill yourself out.

Focus on your breathing.  Take time to just notice what's going on within yourself.  Don't try to correct it, just notice it, and allow it to be.  Accept yourself in your tense state, and recognize your own emotional response to the current environment.  Feel your rootedness to the ground, through the weight of your body and the place where your feet are making contact with the earth.  Take a drink of water.  Shake it out.  Let it go.  There, feeling better?

OK, those are the basics.  Now for some quick nitty-gritty techniques:
1.  Play with your dog outside.  Try to keep all indoor activity to a minimum.  Help your dog work on their "inside voice" vs. their "outside voice".

Here's the reason:  our dogs, who were designed to live outdoors, find interior spaces to be quite a bit more stressful, especially as stimulation intensifies.  Think about it this way - imagine that you have your stereo on in your living room.  You turn the volume up to 6..7..8 - it's getting pretty loud, isn't it?  Almost painfully so.  However, you could take your stereo outside, at that same level, and it would be much easier to take.  In fact, you could probably even turn the volume up without it hurting you.  Well, now turn that stereo (sound energy) into play/animated action (emotional energy).  With the emotional energy amplified by the walls/floors/ceilings, there's almost no way for a dog to stay relaxed in that environment, which means that they will be storing up stress in their internal battery.  That stress needs to come out eventually - and until YOU become the moose in your dog's life that stress will come out in ways that are often not desirable.  So...do the play and training, the bulk of your "active" interaction, outside.

2.  When you touch your dog, use long, smooth, massaging strokes along the back and sides, the chest, and neck.  Keep your touch slow and deliberate, and ever so gradually work your way up to deeper and deeper penetration into the muscle fiber.  You are like your dog's massage therapist - working on the physical tension that is the main culprit in dysfunctional behavior.  Now, what if you went for a massage, and your massage therapist gave you brisk pats instead of a body rub?  It'd have a stimulating effect instead of a relaxing one.  Bear that in mind as you massage your dog.  Ask yourself if that touch is relaxing or stimulating - and focus on the relaxing techniques.

3.  Use treats.  When a dog eats, it releases all sorts of beneficial neuro-chemicals into the bloodstream.  Treats will also help you get your dog's attention when a situation is getting too intense.  You can use the treats to redirect your dog away from whatever is causing the stress, and then use other techniques to deepen the relaxation.

4.  Run it out.  Fluid motion is a great reliever of stress, and exercise also produces those beneficial neuro-chemicals that I just mentioned.  Even walking will help relieve some of the tension in a given situation.  Just remember to walk/run AWAY from the source of stress, not towards it!  If you need to, use treats to lure your dog into the exercise, but soon the good feeling of the motion will become an enticer all its own.

5.  Verbal praise.  It's your tone that matters more than your words, so keep your tone even, medium pitched, and relaxed.  Repeat "good dog, good dog" over and over (or whatever other POSITIVE phrases you'd like to use).  As with everything else, pay attention to the effect your voice is having on your dog.  If it's helping to relax them keep it up, if it's not helping then use one of the other techniques.

6.  Play, especially tug-of-war.  You can play tug of war with your dog while they're on lead.  It's helpful to carry a prized tug toy around with you - keep it hidden from your dog, but ready to pull out when needed.  Recall that making prey (and biting) is THE chief way that a dog can get relief from their stress...so take out the tug toy, encourage them to bite down, tug a bit, let them win (yes, don't forget to let them win!), and then let them carry the toy around as you walk/jog out some of that tension.  Pull on the toy some more.  Turn the whole tug/dog wins/verbal praise/jog into a game of its own.

7.  Finally - just a reminder - work on your OWN relaxation.  Take your time, and as you practice all of these relaxation techniques with your dog, trust that you're getting somewhere.  Most of the time, the effects are immediate, but complete change is rarely instantaneous.  Be patient with your dog, and yourself.

Thanks again for stopping by, and let me know, either through the comments or e-mailing me (neil at naturaldogblog dot com), if you have any questions or suggestions for new articles.

Preview of what's coming soon:  how to introduce your dog to another dog, using a LONG lead, and, at a reader's request, we'll be discussing how to feed your dog - in particular talking about raw food diets.

Keep breathing! 🙂